Still Remembering September 11

Father Mychal's Prayer

“Lord, take me where you want me to go;

Let me meet who you want me to meet;

Tell me what you want me to say, and

Keep me out of your way. Amen”

Fr. Mychal Judge, O.F.M.

Chaplain, New York Fire Department killed on 9/11/2001 at the World Trade Center. Death Certificate Number 1.

Remnants of Twin Towers at Newseum

Remnants of Twin Towers at Newseum

This now famous prayer of Father Mychal Judge who died at the World Trade Center on 9/11/2001 was continually on my mind this past week after our country observed a moment of silence as we heard the names read of the almost 3000 people who died in four coordinated attacks on this country that early autumn morning. Flags were at half-staff. Out Daughters of the King at St. Mark’s helped with an all-day vigil praying for peace, for concern for our neighbors, and for an end to violence in our country.

Mychal Judge was a Franciscan friar and Catholic priest serving as a chaplain to the New York City Fire Department, not afraid to become part of the messiness of life. After the first attack, he prayed over bodies in the streets and then went into the lobby of the North Tower that had become an emergency command post. He was killed by flying debris when the South Tower collapsed. His biographers say his dying prayer was “Jesus, please end this right now! God, please end this!” The iconic photograph of five men carrying his body out of the North Tower has been described as an American Pieta, another Michael’s statue of Mary holding the dead body of Jesus in St. Peter’s in Rome or a lesser known work of Michelangelo, Deposition with Joseph of Arimathea, as Barbara Crafton showed recently on her The Almost-Daily Emo from The Geranium Farm.

Father Mychal was also most remembered as a staunch supporter of LGBT rights as well as being a sober member of Alcoholic Anonymous for 23 years. Another 3000 were reported to have attended his funeral. Father Michael Duffy closed his homily at that service with, “We come to bury Myke Judge’s body but not his spirit. We come to bury his hands, but not his good works. We come to bury his heart, but not his love. Never his love.”

Michael Daly, Daily News (New York) , February 11, 2002.

Shannon Stapleton, September 11, 2001, Photojournalist.

Stephen Todd, Daily Ponderables, September 11, 2017.

“Slain Priest: ‘Bury His Heart, But Not His Love’ September 8, 2011, NPR Morning Edition

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How Do I Listen?

“How

Do I

Listen to others?

As if everyone were my Master

Speaking to me

His

Cherished

Last

Words.”

—Hafiz, The Gift (renderings by Daniel James Ladinsky).

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Listening skills are paramount with spiritual friends. I remember one person I met with for spiritual direction who talked for the whole hour. I never spoke a word. I kept waiting for her to take a breath, but it didn’t seem to happen. At first I couldn’t understand why she came; but gradually I sensed that she just needed someone to listen to her, to acknowledge the God within her. This became more evident after she sent several other people to me for direction because she said I was so helpful! I also realized that she was a gift to me, teaching me how to listen.

There are many listening exercises we can practice to enable us to be good listeners. One is used by a grief recovery group, Walking the Mourner’s Path. At the first meeting of those who are grieving the death of a loved one, the participants divide into pairs, and each person tells the other about his or her loved one. Then they all return to the group as each listener tells the group about the person being grieved by his or her partner. Even though the pairs never work together again, a bond between them often develops that lasts for the eight weeks of the program and longer.

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Our Neighbor

“The hardest spiritual work in the world is to love the neighbor as the self—to encounter another human being not as someone you can use, change, fix, help, save, enroll, convince or control, but simply as someone who can spring you from the prison of yourself, if you will allow it.” —Barbara Brown Taylor in An Altar in the World: A Geography of Faith (HarperOne. 2010).

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Our older son takes his daughter to high school each day on his way to work. If they have some extra time, they stop at their favorite coffee or smoothie haunt and have a cup of coffee or hot chocolate or smoothie together. I am thinking what a treasure it can be to have a few minutes a day with one of your parents, and maybe even share a cup of your favorite comfort drink. They are both introverts, so they may not say much; but each offers the other a presence in this one-on-one experience, and a chance to get to know each other a little better.

I grew up in a small town with amazing neighbors. Mrs. Rick, a widow with pearl-white hair, lived across the street in a house that seemed huge at the time. One of our neighbors on Second Street had to move away for physical reasons. Mrs. Rick then started walking at 9:00 every morning for seven blocks from Second Street to Ninth Street, up to Riddle’s Drug Store, to meet this neighbor for coffee. Our next-door neighbor, Paul, cut Mrs. Rick’s grass every week.

I have a friend who calls me every morning. Most people are too busy working to call or talk to one person a day on a regular basis and see it as a as pure gift.

These are the kinds of relationships that work best to “spring” us from ourselves. We don’t have to pretend anymore. If we allow such intimacy, these people are permitted to learn who we really are. When we are with them we begin to let down our mask and start becoming the person God created us to be.

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