Lessons from Pickett's Brigade Reunion

 Lessons from Pickett’s Brigade Reunion

“And who is my neighbor?”—Luke 10:29.

Ken Burns’ television series on the Civil War describes a remarkable scene on the fiftieth anniversary of the Battle of Gettysburg, July 3, 1913, when the remainder of the two armies stages a reenactment of Pickett’s Charge. The old Union veterans on the ridge take their places among the rocks, and the old Confederate veterans march toward them across the field below—and then something extraordinary happens. As the older men among the rocks rush down at the older men coming across the field, a great cry goes up—except that instead of doing battle, as they had a century earlier, this time, they throw their arms around each other and embrace and openly weep.

In 1914, during World War I, German, British, Belgian, and French troops in the trenches along the Western Front mingled with each other during a brief Christmas truce, even singing “Silent Night” and other carols in solidarity. Recently, we have observed something similar at World War II memorials, such as Normandy, where German, English, French, and American soldiers have wept together and shared their stories. We have also seen it when American soldiers return to Vietnam to share stories with those they once bitterly fought against.

This repeated action of shared love and story can tell us something about war. So many who have fought on foreign fields can be our strongest advocates against war. They know what they—and those who once were their enemies—have lost. They share a common life-altering experience that only someone who has been through it can truly understand.

Those in recovery of any kind also know how awful their life of obsession was before their healing from addictions to alcohol, drugs, sex, food, etc. They can relate to those who remain trapped in their addiction. Most of all, they can minister to those still suffering and offer hope that their lives can be different. They do this by sharing the story of their life in addiction, contrasted to what it is like now in recovery.

Those who have overcome mental illness can become advocates for others who suffer from this common disease. People who were once homeless can offer restorative hope to those on the street. Cancer survivors can encourage and pray for others who have been recently diagnosed, giving them strength and support.

This story goes on and on and on. We are healed as we reach out of ourselves, share our stories, and listen to sufferers in situations we know all too well. We realize “who IS our neighbor.”

Some call this becoming wounded healers.

Joanna. https://www.joannaseibert.com/

 

 

 

Walking Each Other Home

Walking each other home

“Find those who tell you, Do not be afraid, yet stay close enough to tremble with you. This is love.”—Cole Arthur Riley, This Here Flesh, p. 90.

I had most often described courage as “fear that has said its prayers.” Many may recognize that as a 12-step recovery saying.

 Cole Riley expands our thoughts about fear. He tells us that fear is not something we need to handle alone. We are to live in community with other friends who can understand our worries and may even share them. Friends walk with us through fear. Neither of us knows what will happen, but their presence, not their words, makes all the difference. This, indeed, is love.

We sit with those who are sick and fear dying. We stand with each other when no others will.

I see the image of Dr. Joycelyn Elders when she was Surgeon General holding her young son’s hand and walking with him to court when he was accused of using drugs. That was love. 

I see parents and friends sitting at the bedside of a child severely injured in a car accident.

I see men and women in Ukraine standing beside each other to battle an invasion of their country when they were shopkeepers and teachers a few months earlier.

I see members of a town devastated by a hurricane, flood, or tornado who hold each other up and pick up the pieces together.

I see young men and women in the military protecting our country who went to proms and graduations just a few months earlier.

And so today, we give thanks for all those known and unknown who have done this for all those we love.  

Loving Kindness Meditation

Loving-Kindness Meditation

 “Sitting comfortably, lying down, or while driving, sitting in a meeting, waiting in the hospital, or any other potentially stressful situation.

 Silently repeat these words, intending loving-kindness to be sent to yourself:

‘May I be peaceful. May I be happy. May I be safe.’

Next, silently repeat the exact words, intending loving-kindness to go to a person you love:

‘May I be peaceful. May I be happy. May I be safe.’

Next, silently repeat the exact words, intending loving-kindness to go to a  neutral person in your life, someone you barely know:

‘May I be peaceful. May I be happy. May I be safe.’

Finally, silently repeat the exact words, intending loving-kindness to go to someone you are in conflict with or dislike:

‘May I be peaceful. May I be happy. May I be safe.’

Take a breath. Inhale and exhale.

Notice reactions to this meditation. Accept what you are noticing. Be aware of your thoughts, emotions, or responses to this meditation or to the people you directed your meditation towards.  This is the practice of mindfulness.”

—Madhuleena Roy Chowdhury,  “What is Loving-Kindness Meditation?”

https://positivepsychology.com/loving-kindness-meditation/

 

Dr. Jay McDaniel, a retired professor of Religion, Philosophy of Religion, and Theology at Hendrix College, spoke recently at St. Mark’s Episcopal Church about using this Loving-Kindness Prayer if we have difficulty loving our enemies. The Loving-Kindness meditation is an ancient Buddhist meditation on unconditional love, with no expectations of receiving anything in return. The many forms of the Loving-Kindness meditation direct our thoughts and love toward ourselves and others.

The original name of this practice is metta bhavana, which comes from the Pali language. Metta means love in a non-romantic sense. It is our word for friendliness or kindness, thus loving-kindness. It is an emotion, something you feel in your heart. Bhavana means development or cultivation.

Our nation desperately needs healing. We can start with this loving-kindness meditation and see what happens.